I’m going to make this short & sweet (for the 5 people who might see it 😃):
There is no logic or honor in committing to your mistakes. HumbleBragging about “sticking it out” year after miserable year is like being proud of having ongoing diarrhea while continually eating at *Taco Bell.
It doesn’t matter if it’s a romantic relationship, a friendship, a career choice, or whatever, if it’s always a struggle, a fight & rewards are few (then overly appreciated because they are so far & few between), stop bragging!
Stop making anniversary posts on social media with deep posts about your love & how the road may be rocky but it’s been a great 15 years!
Uhm, we all know it’s not a “rocky road” — it’s a goddamn jutted, ragged impassable, unforgiving mountain of sharp rocks, deep crevices, & huge boulders that you keep trying to crawl up, despite busted knees, bleeding arms, & broken legs.
(We didn’t suddenly forget all those tearful Reels & text chats about the latest tomfuckery)!
Stop giving young people advice about hanging in there & commitment. Commitment to nonsense isn’t a lesson anyone needs to learn!
When I was younger, I did not commit to relationships for very long. My family got a kick out of it because we are typically lifers, and I would walk away in months.
Yes, I was a serial dater, but I was learning some thing in every single one of those situations. I was learning some thing about myself, and what I like & didn’t like it & what I needed to do to grow, and how I contributed to the failures.
There was one time at 19, that I did fall in love, and it lasted three years, which was two years longer than it should have! Alas & thankfully I learned to walk away from love too. Sure, I had some pride about sticking it out for the three years, and hated that my hopes about reaching a lasting peace and joy at some point, was gone. No nostalgic stories to tell future grandchildren about how pepaw & memaw almost didn’t make it!
I was fucking delusional! Lol I would much rather tell them stories about how I left misery behind and found my peace and joy and eventual love of my life!
Learn to quit! Do it sooner than later! You can make mistakes. But you can’t live in them forever! This is your damn life we’re talking about! We don’t get to waste this precious gift by forcing ourselves to stay in some arbitrary commitment or self & society imposed dedication to a thing that brings us misery!
We give too much credit to those who don’t let go, even when we see they are chronically unhappy, mismatched, mistreated & burned out.
Learn to walk away & once you’ve had breathing room to assess the mistake, your role in it, why you wallowed in it for so long & the peace you gained afterwards, only THEN you can brag about it.
*Taco Bell is fine for digestive systems 25 yrs or younger.
